Marianne came to us because she was not happy with her pregnancy or the relationship involving the father of her baby. She was convinced that having an abortion would be the way to disconnect from her unwanted relationship. It wasn’t a question or a thought that she wanted to move forward with an abortion.
Marianne went in for a counseling session alone and then moved to the nursing room to discuss her medical history. She had a 10 year old son and a miscarriage two years prior. She was eager to have a sonogram to confirm gestational age in order to decide the type of abortion procedure she would qualify for. She entered the sono room with no obvious emotion. She was only anxious to see how far along she was so she could move forward with her abortion as soon as possible. The gestational age was less than expected dates, but the heartbeat was evident as soon as the image was displayed on the sono screen. Marianne who seemed stoic and uninterested in nothing more than the dates, was suddenly full of emotion as soon as she saw and heard the baby’s heartbeat. She had an uncontrolled instant reaction of excitement. She was suddenly smiling from ear to ear and she had tears rolling down her cheeks. The room was quiet and Marianne looked at the sono tech and said, “wow, that’s my baby”….
Before Marianne left, she told us that she was 35 years old and unsure that she would want to have a baby any later in age. She also stated that she did not disclose accurate information about having a miscarriage and that she actually had a previous abortion. Although she knew that she did not want to go through another abortion, she couldn’t convince herself to think otherwise. After her sonogram, she told us that she was so happy that we encouraged her to pause and think about her situation. She said the sonogram made her pregnancy real and that she could not terminate the life inside of her again.
Marianne left us with joy and smiles and told us that she was so happy to have found us. Had she not come to see us, she would have made another big mistake by terminating another baby without slowing down to think of her options. She said, thanks to us, she will be looking for a new doctor to start her OB care as soon as possible!
*names are changed to protect patient privacy |